Male behaviour will improve dramatically when you intentionally remove his sexual satisfaction. His instincts will drive him to exhibit pleasing behaviour and will make it much more difficult for him to do anything that goes against your wishes. Just remember there is a significant time delay as the male moves from a state of sexual satisfaction to sexual frustration. It takes a little time and denying his orgasm for only a few days will not be long enough. In fact for the first few days, he might be more impatient, aggressive and exhibit annoying manipulative behaviour like whining or attempt to control you through force. A good rule of thumb is that it takes about a week to see the benefits of enforced chastity. You have to give him enough time to get completely sexually unsatisfied before you are in full control. For this to happen you are going to need one of the vast selection of male chastity devices on the open market.
Not allowing him to orgasm during sex with you, and doing away with his unsupervised masturbation by putting him in chastity will result in your man always being focused on you. He will not be able to escape his need to give you fulfilment of every want and desire.
A helpful way to think of this is to think of his sexual satisfaction as a vacation away from you. Every time the male achieves orgasm his focus will move somewhere else for about a week. During this time he will be “on vacation” and will not be serving you to the best of his ability. With that in mind, you should consider how many weeks per year you want his attention to be on his own selfish desires. As his boss, how many weeks of “vacation” should be granted.
One male orgasm per week translates to 52 weeks of “vacation” per year.
One male orgasm every other week translates to 26 weeks of “vacation” per year.
One male orgasm per month translates to 12 weeks of “vacation” per year.
One male orgasm per quarter translates to 4 weeks of “vacation” per year.
One male orgasm every six months translates to 2 weeks of “vacation” per year.
One male orgasm per year translates to 1 week of “vacation” per year.
As the one in power, decide many weeks of vacation would your best employee deserve per year? How many weeks are you willing to tolerate your man’s focus being on his selfish satisfaction, rather than you?
As for fairness. let him know at least in broad terms how many orgasms you think he deserves. As vacations go, there is no exact formula. Since you are the one in power, you get to decide when and where. Don’t allow him to complain or even request an orgasm. If he is “expecting” you to let him cum, either through sex or supervised masturbation, you can consider that nothing more than whining for attention. You are in every right to punish bad behaviour.
Which brings us to the other half of behaviour modification. Discipline. If you don’t like a certain way he is acting, you must exert your authority. Delay or modify his reward. And don’t allow him to complain when you modify the schedule or rarely cancel an orgasm.
In some instances, it is appropriate to use physical punishment, such as spanking. Application of some sort of chemical like Icy Hot to his balls, nipples or penis can be non-dangerous and memorably painful. A time out option is also appropriate. Find an out of the way place: a spare room, garage or basement to handcuff and gag him for a few hours. A hotel can serve as a great place to leave him while you go shop and get your money’s worth. A final form of punishment would be to make him endure something disgusting: hog tie him in the shower and pee on him. Anything that will be change his behaviour must be humiliating and uncomfortable enough that he will not “volunteer”. Anyway, it is more fun for you to trick him with his little boy desires and stupid “man brain”. Tell him you are going to tie and please. Once he is helpless, detail his mistakes and punish.